Survivor/Advocate Conversation: Understanding Triggers Years Later A big thank you to my dear friend Ursula Kuba for being courageous and sharing her trauma story to help others. Survivor: So. I thought I was over this two years ago. But last week a male police officer came to do an investigation at work (that had … Continue reading Survivor/Advocate Conversation: Understanding Triggers Years Later
The #ForSuchaTimeasThisRally was a great success! A good crowd gathered outside of the Kay Bailey Hutchison Convention Center in Dallas Texas asking the faith community to honor and value women, especially in relation to domestic violence and sexual assault. The speakers included myself and: (Click on each name to access their website) Ashley … Continue reading For Such a Time as this Rally (During the Southern Baptist Convention 2018)
Some of the articles already on this website might be helpful for healing. Here are some quick links: The Art of Zentangle: A Tool for Healing Understanding how the Brain Responds in Trauma: Neurons Firing and Wiring Transforming Anger In my doctorate research I organized healing tools into four categories. These four divisions were: Art … Continue reading HEALING Ideas
What does it mean when a person experiences an assault? Can rape happen in committed relationships? These are tough questions but I will attempt to answer them in this post as a preview of what you will see in my upcoming book. I define sexual assault and consent in these ways: Sexual assault: Any … Continue reading Let’s Talk Consent
Today my article for Annesley Writers went live. This month they are focusing on gender-based violence, including domestic violence. They asked me to write this piece and I was thrilled to be a part of this project. Here's a teaser. It was a chilly spring afternoon when I got a call from an unknown number. … Continue reading Annesley Article: Survivors Know Best
According to an article published by Slate this week, the prosecuting attorney in Honolulu created stipulations for victims of violence to receive services in the local shelter. As of today, July 15, 2017, the article is available for review here. In this piece it states the following conditions must be met if a person desires … Continue reading What is Wrong with Conditions?
I published a new piece with Evangelicals for Social Action that deals with the harm done when we make suggestions on how women can protect themselves from rape. "Consider this thought experiment: A survivor of sexual assault—someone whose body was literally violated by another person with unwanted touch, was humiliated, couldn’t make the person stop, … Continue reading Don’t Drink? How About Don’t Rape?
The last hashtag #StuffNotToSay was amazing! It was born from a creative group of friends and survivors were able to find language and images to describe the horrible things they heard when they disclosed their experience of violence. Before I knew it, I could barely keep track of posting all the amazing memes! It was … Continue reading Hashtag #WhatToSay
This week my friend Amy Hollingsworth (Author of "The Simple Faith of Mister Rogers" and co-author of "Runaway Radical") posted a status that made me say "Can someone please turn this into a meme for me?" Which she did. With the message "your every wish." I posted this to my professional Dr. Christy Sim Facebook … Continue reading Hashtag #StuffNotToSay
This article went live today and I encourage you all to read it. My purpose is two-fold. First, to analyze how Saeed's answers to the interview questions give us a glimpse into how he might be abusive (and to understand abusers in general). And second, to investigate what happens when a big publication like Christianity … Continue reading What We Can Learn from the Christianity Today Article with Saeed